Supporting all who care for elders
A special person I know is moving her mom into care in the next month. What a frightening journey that can be! She wrote to me, asking for advice. This was my reply: I was so pleased to hear you and your family had made the difficult decision to find a place for your mom […]
Advice on the Big Move to Long-Term-Care Read More »
My car has reached that unfortunate state where the repairs and anticipated repairs mean I need to replace it. Ugh. I am leaving for vacation in less than a week. I wasn’t planning on taking my car, but the multitude of decisions necessary to get a new one will have to wait until I get
Maintaining Independence When You Need More Help Read More »
Imagine you are 10 years old. Do you remember the house you lived in at that time? What did it look like? What did your mom and dad like to wear? Did your mom wear an apron and make your favourite foods? Was your dad busy at work all day, and did the family eat
How to Focus Your “Dementia-speak” and Produce Joy Read More »
We often associate anxiety with dementia, and that’s legitimate. There’s nothing like an impaired memory to cause fear, especially if everything and everyone is new to you every day–that’s scary. But that’s a topic for another day. Elders who don’t suffer from cognitive decline, but have an anxiety disorder, have an especially poignant struggle. I
The Crippling Force of Anxiety Read More »
Imagine you’re snuggled in bed having a great sleep, and at about 7:00 a.m., a stranger walks in your bedroom, turns on the light, and begins rifling through your clothes. As you cower under the sheets, she grabs the covers out of your hand, ripping them off you, and starts to perform some extremely personal
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A Shattered Hallelujah A shattered hallelujah is now my song of praise Its notes are all the sweeter when my voice can barely raise. Arms outflung, He calls to me to walk among the waves To trust beyond what’s
The Small Miracle of the Broken Read More »
It wasn’t the best of mornings. I had ten minutes to blow dry my hair, change my shoes and get out the door. At that precise moment, my puppy discovered the enticing, dangling toilet paper, and ran with it in his mouth through the house. The other end was still attached to the roll. I
“I have no choice” Read More »
Families can be the best aspect of our lives, or the worst, or somewhere in between. The reality is that if families aren’t functioning well, or one member isn’t, becoming a care partner will make this more difficult. Rather than fighting, dysfunctional families will often stay away from each other, having as little contact as
As words go, it’s not one of my favourites. Deterioration. “The process of becoming progressively worse.” 1 Eww. Sounds like mouldy bread. The reality of life is, deterioration happens to all of us adults. I used to be able to walk farther and run up a set of stairs. At one point in my life, I
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I saw laughter. I saw whirlwinds of activity. I saw smiles and happy tears. I saw hugs and milling crowds and eating–lots of eating. I saw all these at work today. But I didn’t see helplessness. “An Elder-centred community creates opportunity to give as well as receive care. This is the antidote to helplessness.” Eden
The Family had a Party Read More »