Grief

How to Eradicate Boredom and Find Purpose for Elders

 Walter looked out the window but he didn’t notice the lush green of the garden. It had rained for three days straight, sometimes with thunderstorms, and the grey skies suited his mood. The weather had kept him inside and he couldn’t think of a thing he wanted to do. The book he had started a […]

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How to Deal with a Diagnosis of Alzheimer’s or Dementia

    As a fiction writer, one of the skills I’ve developed is to get inside my characters’ heads and hearts. I need to feel what they are feeling and then spill that onto the page in ways that draw my reader in.      That’s what makes today’s blog so difficult to write.  

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How to Prepare For End-of-life With Your Elder

Decisions. More decisions. Agonizing, frightening decisions. Besides the emotional tsunami of losing a love one, end-of-life contains so many difficult choices. I remember panic rolling through me as I thought, “What do I do? I don’t know what to do.” This week, we are going to look at these decisions and try to take the

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How to Read and Understand When the End is Near

One day, your task as a care partner will end. You know this. Perhaps, on a day full of appointments and crises and decisions, you long for that day. In a secret place in your heart, you might think, “My elder has suffered enough and I’m tired. I’m ready for the end.” Then a nurse

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How to Face “Good-bye” When the Time Comes

It’s hard to say “goodbye.” My four-year-old granddaughter stood with her eyes brimming. We’d had a magical weekend together at a cottage, and because they lived so far away, this kind of time almost never happened. We were going to see them again in a month when they came to our house to visit, so

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The One Where Christmas Happened Without You And We Found A Way

The year after my husband died, I asked to make Christmas dinner.  My sister-in-law and I went year-about with Christmas, and it was her turn. My coping mechanism, for the first few months, entailed keeping myself so busy, I didn’t have a lot of time to think. I worked full-time, made all the preparations for

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The One Where We Lost Someone, And Christmas Came Anyway

The answer to today’s Wordle puzzle was “ninja.” Immediately, tears pricked my eyes and a thousand memories flooded my brain.  I miss my favourite ninja. You may have read about the passing of my lovely niece, Jenn, this last August. https://smallmiracles.online/the-not-so-small-miracle-of-jenn-a-life-well-lived/  As a marathon runner, she would get up before sunrise during Manitoba winters to

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How Your Caregiver Journey Can Flourish With Excellent Support

I can’t remember what I had for sale. That’s not important to the story. I posted it on Facebook, saying that my price was firm because I would be using the money to put toward a recumbent bike for my niece. She had what we thought was Parkinson’s, and couldn’t safely walk outside, but this

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The (not so) Small Miracle of Jenn. A Life Well Lived.

                    “I have never had a day that didn’t sparkle in some way.” Jennifer Dawn Shearer (1974-2023) Forty-nine years ago, I worked as a teenager among the troubled youth in Ontario housing. I received a call one day that changed my life. It made me grin

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How to Find Blessing in the Burden of Care

Some blessings are obvious, but some can take me longer to recognize. My story: The blessing of Jean I worked at a retirement home when I first met Jean. She lived in an independent apartment upstairs and once-a-month she’d call to book a room for her church meeting. Always gracious on the phone, she remained

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