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How to Listen to the Dreams of Elders and Say “What If…”

When I started working in eldercare, my work experience included my father’s pharmacy, employment in a library, and 15 years of running a daycare in my home. I loved the elders, was a good listener and had creative ideas, but I didn’t know what I was doing. The timing of my hiring  came at the […]

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What I Learned About Closed Doors From an Elder with Dementia

Maisie leaned on her tip-toes to peek out the window at the top of the door. A tiny bird of a woman, she clung to her walker for balance. Thin grey hair, heavy brogues and tartan skirt and jacket, she presented the perfect picture of an elderly Scottish lady out for a stroll. She was

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How to Plan Summer Family Celebrations Which Include Your Elder

    Some memories are all about the emotions. It was 50 years ago, but the anger and indignity I felt still surface.      As a kid, I’d loved family reunions. Usually held beside water, I could swim, run around with the three cousins who were close to my age and snack all day

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Including Elders in Summer Fun Doesn’t Need to be Complicated

     Take a guess. Of all the activities and trips I planned over the years for the frail elderly population I served, which was the most popular?      The garden centre.      We rented a bus because it was necessary with wheelchairs, but we didn’t go far. A large garden centre situated

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How to Make Your Summer Celebrations Sparkle by Including Elders

   Everything in me, body and soul, yearns for this time of year. The green grass, the budding trees, the garden. Maybe you don’t love spring with quite the same fervour, but most people look forward to the many celebrations and get-togethers of summer. It’s time to shed the layers and have some fun.    

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Some Practical Ideas for Addressing Ageism

   Myperfectresume.com is a website dedicated to helping people looking for a job. They walk them through the process of perfecting their resume and putting their best selves forward in their search.      A few years ago, they conducted an “Attitudes in the Workplace” survey in the U.S. of over 1,000 workers regarding ageism.

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How to Recognize Ageism in Every Part of Your Life

Does ageism matter? A few jokes and memes. People poking fun at their own infirmities? Should I lighten up?      It matters because ageism is the last “acceptable” prejudice. It occupies our society, our workplaces, our government, and is so invasive that we don’t recognize it a lot of the time. It becomes an

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How to Understand Ageism and Why It Should Scare You

    The meme contained a scowling older man holding a remote and yelling, “What channel is Netflix?”      Ha ha.      The message is clear: older people can’t figure out technology.      I receive many such memes, jokes, cartoons in my inbox. I’m not about to start a war with my

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How to Help Your Elder With Dementia Negotiate Anxiety

   “I can’t stay for dinner. Daddy’s expecting me at home. Momma will miss me. I have to go.”      Laura’s agitation escalated as she squirmed in her wheelchair. A deep frown creased her face and she continued wringing her hands.       Laura lived in our TLC, an area of our home for

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9 Reasons Why Your Elder With Dementia Might Be Struggling

     “He’s coming again.” The care partner passing my desk said the words as if commenting on the weather, or telling me she was going for lunch. I knew exactly what she meant.      George loved to wander in his wheelchair, and if he made it past my desk, he would create havoc

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