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How to Maintain an Elder’s Routines While Adding Some Christmas Magic

In her caregiver journey, Sharon discovered that routine was king.       In the mornings, she brought her mom a cup of tea in bed after she woke. Then Mom got up, used the washroom, washed herself and brushed her teeth. Once dressed, she ate breakfast, and often had a nap in her chair. Later […]

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How to Follow Your Senses to a Meaningful Christmas

    Sharon looked through her recipes and sighed. She’s made Christmas cookies with her mom since she had stood on a stool to reach the counter and the apron she wore dusted her feet. They’d laughed and told stories and the kitchen had filled with the amazing smells of gingerbread and shortbread cookies. But

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Looking Beyond a Dementia Diagnosis to the Person

My children refer to it as my “goose phase,” and it’s embarrassing.      I’ve always been a fan of the country look. Cozy, lots of wood and crafty decor. In our first house, I had the opportunity to decorate how I liked it. When everyone else went for the straight lines of Scandinavian furniture

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How To Change How the World Sees People With Dementia

    I recently saw the pilot of a TV show that made me want to stand up and cheer.       A mostly non-verbal elderly man with dementia sits in his darkened room. An aid with a cart asks him if he wants some water. Without pausing for more than a beat, she says,

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Quality Of Life Can Be Tricky in Your Alzheimer’s Journey

Floris, who was care partner for her husband, arranged an event she thought might be special for him. He “walked with Alzheimer’s” and had always been a baseball fan. He had a specific team he loved, and although it was challenging, she wanted to take him to a game when his team played in town. 

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Practical Ideas for Elders to Give Care

    Sometimes reciprocal care takes a little work.      Operation Christmas Child is a wonderful program of Samaritan’s Purse. Special boxes are packed for children of various ages with items like clothes, school supplies, small toys, books etc. They are then distributed by the organization to children who would otherwise not receive a

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Your Elder Has a Gift to Share with Everyone

 My most poignant story of reciprocal care happened the day I came back to work after the death of my husband. It’s a story I’ve told before, but thinking back on it still brings tears to my eyes. I knew that first day would be gruelling, Part of me wanted to find a place to

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Four Surprising Characteristics to Consider When Hiring Caregivers

  They looked like two friends enjoying coffee and a chat, except one was furiously scribbling notes. As Cheri shared her experiences with hiring caregivers for her dad, Abby tried to write down all her insights. Everything Cheri said struck a chord with her, but it wasn’t the advice she’d been expecting.  Delight    

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Advice About What to Look For in a Caregiver

   “I feel like I’m looking for an angel with a halo and wings. Or maybe a whole chorus of angels, because one definitely won’t do.” A week earlier…      Abby felt overwhelmed as she looked at the many notes she had spread across the dining room table. Mom would be returning home from

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Finding the Care You Need to Stay in Your Home

It began with a fall. Abby got the call at work and rushed to the hospital to meet the ambulance that brought her mother there. Mom had gone out to take the garbage to the curb and had slipped on some black ice. The kids had all left for school and the street was deserted,

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