Supporting all who care for elders
Is there one phrase which is true of every person with dementia and every person who lost their keys, forgot a name or used poor judgement and fears they might be developing dementia? One phrase? Everyone is different. Everyone. Is. Different. Dr. Bill Thomas, the founder of The Eden Alternative, said, “If you’ve met one […]
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I’ve lived under a cloud all my adult life. Shortly after I was married at 23, and certainly by the time I’d had my first daughter at 25, my mother showed signs of early-onset dementia. Our family knew nothing about the disease, and society at large was far less knowledgeable at the time. It was
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Remember my friend from a few weeks ago? A short, gentle man with a soft voice, he’d admitted his wife to our care floor a few weeks ago, and now participated in his first care conference. This meeting, with all the staff who care for his wife giving input, gave him a chance to ask
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“She’s getting older. I guess some fuzzy thinking can be expected.” Did you use these or similar words to rationalize the changes you saw in your loved one? It’s common to believe that someone whose age is advancing would naturally experience cognitive changes. We call them “senior moments” and laugh them off until they become
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A short, gentle man with a soft voice, he’d admitted his wife to our care floor a few weeks ago, and now participated in the first care conference. This meeting, with all the staff who care for his wife giving input, gave him a chance to ask questions. Many questions. An intelligent man, he had
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I’m writing to you because it’s so much more personal than a blog post, and the diagnosis your received last week is as personal as it gets. Alzheimer’s. I bet you’re still in a fog, trying to assimilate what this means for the rest of your life. Can I give you some advice? (You know
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“You have dementia, probably Alzheimer’s type.” Time stops. None of the rest of the world exists. At this moment, only you, the doctor and this room matter. The walls seem to close in and there is a strange whistling in your ears. Alzheimer’s? It’s Alzheimer’s? You already strongly suspected, but the seed of hope still
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“She’s dehydrated.” The hospital nurse’s tone spoke volumes and her message was clear. The resident we sent to the hospital was suffering from dehydration on our watch, so obviously we gave terrible care. The judgement was in her voice, the look on her face and the stance of her body. I wanted to punch her.
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I wandered from room to room this morning, looking for an unused over-the-bed table for a resident moving in next week. In one of the rooms, I stopped, sat on the bed and let the experience wash over me. On the bureau sat a vase of grocery store flowers. Nothing spectacular about that. Propped against it sat a
“The doctor diagnosed my mom’s dementia. I don’t know what form of the disease she has, but they seem the same to me. He put her on some medication he said might help.” Statements like this make me shudder. Would we say this about any other disease? “The doctor said my mom has cancer. The
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