Supporting all who care for elders
Freezing rain scares me. At work one day, freezing rain and wind swirled in the streets outside, and the bushes near the window became coated with ice. “Aren’t they pretty?” said a resident as she walked by. Yeah. Pretty. From the inside. When 4:00 o’clock came, I checked the window again, frowning. It […]
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“Will you be my neighbour?” Fred Rogers’ winsome question prodded a generation to think beyond their cultural norms. Neighbours were the same age, colour and religion as me. They were adults, they didn’t have wheelchairs or (gasp!) mental health issues. When we did something for them, they gave back. Yeah, we could be neighbours with
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I made a valiant effort to keep the horror off my face. It was the yearly care conference for this resident and her four children sat in our meeting room with the doctor, physio, dietary staff and others. The purpose was to review her care plan and tweak it if needed. I had just explained
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What takes an elder from independent to needing care? It might be an event, such as a fall, a stroke or other medical crisis. It could be, like a slow leak on a tire, something that takes a while to notice. Bills aren’t being paid, conversations don’t make sense or a house isn’t clean because
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Some blessings are obvious, but some can take me longer to recognize. My story: The blessing of Jean I worked at a retirement home when I first met Jean. She lived in an independent apartment upstairs and once-a-month she’d call to book a room for her church meeting. Always gracious on the phone, she remained
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Caring changes you. Usually, like the decline that brought you to the role, the change is gradual. Not so for Tina. Tina’s Story In 2009, Tina wrote a blog post, remembering a five-year period in her life when she had worked as a caregiver for a family. Their mother struggled with early onset Alzheimer’s and
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Have you ever had your life change in a single night? We were coming home from a birthday celebration. The event, special in itself, had been more blessed by the presence of a beloved aunt. The ride home should have been a time to happily relive the event. The pain in my husband’s foot, of
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One Sunday in church an odd thing happened. Instead of hugging or shaking hands to greet people, they asked us to just wave, or to bump elbows. Embarrassed, I shook hands anyway. What was this foolishness? A few weeks later, I was watching church online. I learned a new language which included social distancing, hand
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“It’s okay to talk to yourself…and okay to answer yourself. But sad when you have to repeat what you said because you weren’t listening.” seen on Facebook It had been the first “fabric shopping trip” since COVID began. My friend and I often travelled along country roads to a wonderful fabric warehouse because we are
What do Care Partners Need? They Need to be Heard. Read More »
In celebration of National Caregiver’s Month in Canada, we are going to explore what care partners need. Have you ever felt invisible? As a shy introvert, it happens to me all the time. And truthfully, I’m not comfortable in groups and I’m usually happy to listen to the rest of you. But once in a
What do Care Partners Need? They Need to be Seen. Read More »