Independence/Choice

How I Learned Authentic Lessons From Being in Chronic Pain

They are everywhere but you may not know them. It might be the person in the next office at work, ahead of you in the grocery line-up or living on your street. They might be your friends or your parents. They are living with chronic pain, and you may not be aware. If you are, […]

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A Behind the Scenes Look at Walking with Chronic Pain

“Others have it worse than you.” I’m aware of this. People who struggle with diseases that may kill them, and which debilitate them along the way, carry a heavier load. Who am I to whine about pain and disability, especially when it may be temporary? We need to be careful with statements like this. Although

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Three Practical Reasons Which Inspire Me To Deny Choice

Offering choice to elders presents many problems. Is it worth it? You decide. Choice is expensive In our dining room at lunch there are two choices of soup, several options of main course, including one bland and one vegetarian and a whole cart full of desserts. Don’t like the soup options? We can make you

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Powerless Elders Devastated by Lack of Choice

Do you ever feel like life’s out of control? Situations are spiralling and you have no choice, or perhaps no good choice? One morning, I faced time pressure to get out the door and make the train. My inner clock ticked and I knew as I blew my hair dry that less than 10 minutes

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The Agony and Inspiration of Elders Losing Independence

What I learned about me The day my car died, I learned an important lesson about myself. And about the elders I serve. In fact, about life in general. My car began to reach that unfortunate stage where it was costing me money. You’ve all been there. You pay for “one last repair” and make

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The Milk Police

“We’ve got a problem.” Megan’s delightful British accent and belly laugh were my favourites, but she wasn’t laughing today. She pulled me aside with a frown and confided to me in a low tone the seriousness of what they were facing. Someone at their table for four was wasting milk. She asked for a full

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How to Offer Maximum Choice and Why

How is this day unlike any other day? Those famous words were applicable to us as we celebrated Shrove Tuesday in our neighbourhood. The menu at lunch was, of course, pancakes, with sausage, bacon, peach and/or strawberry sauce and maple syrup. Resident’s eyes widened as this amazing plateful of goodies was brought to them. If

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How To Offer Choice and Provoke Respect

I probably make a thousand choices in a day. Most of them are insignificant and don’t even hit my radar. Which of my flavoured coffees will I have this morning? What will I wear? Will I have a salad or a sandwich for lunch? After dinner, will I read a book, watch a movie or knit?

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Maintaining Independence When You Need More Help

My car has reached that unfortunate state where the repairs and anticipated repairs mean I need to replace it. Ugh. I am leaving for vacation in less than a week. I wasn’t planning on taking my car, but the multitude of decisions necessary to get a new one will have to wait until I get

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“I have no choice”

It wasn’t the best of mornings. I had ten minutes to blow dry my hair, change my shoes and get out the door. At that precise moment, my puppy discovered the enticing, dangling toilet paper, and ran with it in his mouth through the house. The other end was still attached to the roll. I

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