Respect

Your Elder Has a Gift to Share with Everyone

 My most poignant story of reciprocal care happened the day I came back to work after the death of my husband. It’s a story I’ve told before, but thinking back on it still brings tears to my eyes. I knew that first day would be gruelling, Part of me wanted to find a place to […]

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Four Surprising Characteristics to Consider When Hiring Caregivers

  They looked like two friends enjoying coffee and a chat, except one was furiously scribbling notes. As Cheri shared her experiences with hiring caregivers for her dad, Abby tried to write down all her insights. Everything Cheri said struck a chord with her, but it wasn’t the advice she’d been expecting.  Delight    

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Advice About What to Look For in a Caregiver

   “I feel like I’m looking for an angel with a halo and wings. Or maybe a whole chorus of angels, because one definitely won’t do.” A week earlier…      Abby felt overwhelmed as she looked at the many notes she had spread across the dining room table. Mom would be returning home from

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Finding the Care You Need to Stay in Your Home

It began with a fall. Abby got the call at work and rushed to the hospital to meet the ambulance that brought her mother there. Mom had gone out to take the garbage to the curb and had slipped on some black ice. The kids had all left for school and the street was deserted,

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How to Deal with a Diagnosis of Alzheimer’s or Dementia

    As a fiction writer, one of the skills I’ve developed is to get inside my characters’ heads and hearts. I need to feel what they are feeling and then spill that onto the page in ways that draw my reader in.      That’s what makes today’s blog so difficult to write.  

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When Unexpected Support Brings Joy to Caregivers

I hate my walker. When I had my first hip replacement five years ago, I was able to leave my walker behind after about six weeks and use only my cane. But time and arthritis creeping into other parts of my body made it different this time. At five months in, I am still using

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How to Respectfully Create a Safer Environment

On Friday, Sarah experienced the nightmare every care partner dreads. She came over to her mom’s apartment to find her on the floor. Fortunately, she’d only slipped down as she tripped over a kitchen mat about ten minutes before Sarah arrived. Her bottom had received most of the impact, and other than a large purple

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How a Cup of Christmas Tea Can Change Your Perspective Forever

    As a little girl of no more than five, my mother wanted to bless an older lady at Christmas. She lived around the corner, and we were going to visit. To me, Mrs. McIntyre was tottering with one foot in the grave. She may have been 70 or approaching 90. My “little girl”

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Finding Practical Ways for Elders to Emerge From Depression

Roger had been taking the anti-depressant for two months now. The doctor had warned him that they were starting with a small dose and would raise it slowly as needed. He said he would monitor closely, and that it often took some time to find the correct drug and dosage for each person. “Covering his

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How to Overcome the Stigma of Mental Health Issues in the Elderly

Roger’s moods hadn’t gone unnoticed. But help came from an unexpected source. Jenna picked up the call at work. The voice on the other end of the line hesitated. “Hi, This is George McDuff. You don’t know me, but I’m a friend of your dad’s. We play cards together on Wednesdays.” Jenna’s “worry meter” immediately

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