Stress

9 Reasons Why Your Elder With Dementia Might Be Struggling

     “He’s coming again.” The care partner passing my desk said the words as if commenting on the weather, or telling me she was going for lunch. I knew exactly what she meant.      George loved to wander in his wheelchair, and if he made it past my desk, he would create havoc […]

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How a Simple Christmas Can Be Special For Your Elder

    Sharon looked at the bins of Christmas decorations and already felt overwhelmed. “Christmas ornaments.” “Front Porch Decorations.” “Christmas Village.” She loved it all, but wished the Christmas fairies would come in the night and put it all up for her. Caring for her mother took a lot of her time and energy, and

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How to Find the Passion that Leads to Purpose After Retirement

    As a teenager, cleaning the finished part of our basement fell to me. Dusting the bookcase was my least favourite because it contained old books, an ancient clock, the family Bible and other treasures which took forever to clean. One day, when accomplishing this hated task, I came across a brown folder full

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How to Receive Care As Well As Give It

I came out of my supervisor’s office feeling battered and bruised.       I hadn’t been chastised or done anything wrong. In the midst of a major change, I experienced the messy and overwhelming emotions that go along with that. We were starting a new neighbourhood, training new staff and learning a radical way to

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Making the Livin’ Easy for Elders this Summer

In 1957, the Paul Smith Quartet sang those words, and they’ve been picked up and sung by so many artists since then. And although for elders, it may not be easy in any season, summer does offer more possibilities. This month we’re going to look at what benefits the great outdoors offers, a few cautions,

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Finding the Care You Need to Stay in Your Home

It began with a fall. Abby got the call at work and rushed to the hospital to meet the ambulance that brought her mother there. Mom had gone out to take the garbage to the curb and had slipped on some black ice. The kids had all left for school and the street was deserted,

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When Unexpected Support Brings Joy to Caregivers

I hate my walker. When I had my first hip replacement five years ago, I was able to leave my walker behind after about six weeks and use only my cane. But time and arthritis creeping into other parts of my body made it different this time. At five months in, I am still using

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How to Recognize and Begin to Overcome Caregiver Stress

“It takes a village to raise a child.” African proverb Care partners need a village, too. A group of sometimes unrelated people who in ways, big or small, pour into their elder. I can hear you. “Yes, that sounds lovely. But I have no village. There’s only me.” That’s a recipe for disaster. This month,

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How to Identify Three Evil Triplets Which Result in Caregiver Guilt

It makes no sense. At a time in your life when you are stretched the most physically, emotionally and mentally, you feel guilty? You try to meet the ever-changing needs of your elder, keep up with your job, meet your family’s needs, keep the house in decent shape, all while feeling more tired than you’ve

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How to Recognize Caregiver Guilt

Mary’s care partner came to me looking frustrated. “I don’t know what to do. Every drawer and cupboard and extra space is stuffed full, and today Tim came in with more presents for her. She was delighted, but I have no idea where to put them!”  I smiled. Although it was a lovely problem to

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