“Not in Kansas Any More!” How to Find Your Way In A Move to Long-Term-Care

After my husband died, my friends would often take me shopping with them. I’ve always hated shopping, but I needed companionship so I’d follow them around the stores like a lost puppy. On one of these excursions to a craft store, my friend went in search of what she needed and I wandered the aisles […]

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How a Cup of Christmas Tea Can Change Your Perspective Forever

    As a little girl of no more than five, my mother wanted to bless an older lady at Christmas. She lived around the corner, and we were going to visit. To me, Mrs. McIntyre was tottering with one foot in the grave. She may have been 70 or approaching 90. My “little girl”

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How “party moments” can make Christmas special

     Everyone anticipated the staff Christmas party.      Every year, staff gathered from all shifts in the auditorium. The event was catered so that kitchen staff could enjoy as well, and long tables were heaped with delicious goodies of all kinds. A Photo Booth, staff presentations, door prizes to drool over and lots

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How to Give Like Santa to Your Elder this Christmas

“It’s the most wonderful time of the year.” I’ve always thought, “that song must have been written by a man.” I looked it up. It was. Two men, in fact. Edward Pola and George Wyle in 1963. It was first performed and made famous by another man, Andy Williams, the same year. I love Christmas,

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Finding Practical Ways for Elders to Emerge From Depression

Roger had been taking the anti-depressant for two months now. The doctor had warned him that they were starting with a small dose and would raise it slowly as needed. He said he would monitor closely, and that it often took some time to find the correct drug and dosage for each person. “Covering his

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How to Overcome the Stigma of Mental Health Issues in the Elderly

Roger’s moods hadn’t gone unnoticed. But help came from an unexpected source. Jenna picked up the call at work. The voice on the other end of the line hesitated. “Hi, This is George McDuff. You don’t know me, but I’m a friend of your dad’s. We play cards together on Wednesdays.” Jenna’s “worry meter” immediately

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How to Recognize the Struggle with Depression Among Elders

Grey clouds hovered over the November sky all day, and at 4:00, dusk began to gather. Roger turned away from the window in disgust. He hated this time of year. Bare trees, colder temperatures and never enough light. He eased himself into his recliner. Who was he kidding? He did hate November, but this seemed

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Practical Ideas to Combat Loneliness in Elders

Wanda had watched her father sink into the abyss of loneliness over the last few months, and she felt desperate to help. Nothing she did seemed to make a difference.      When Dad’s best friend had died suddenly several months ago, it had seemed to knock him off his feet emotionally. Then it happened

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How Isolation is a Physical, Emotional and Mental Killer

George stared out the window at the brilliant fall day. He should go out for a walk. Even a short one would help. He sat in his recliner and raised his feet. Exhaustion seeped into his every pore. He didn’t have the energy. He could hear Sheila’s voice. “You’ll feel better if you do. Come

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How social isolation can damage your elder in every way

As a shy introvert, these facts have always been true about me: I need space in my togetherness. Social situations both feed and drain me. Time alone to think, pray, enjoy nature, and pursue creativity nourishes me. When five warm, busy, noisy bodies filled my house, I would long for quiet and a minute alone.

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How to manage caregiver guilt

Is it ever right to challenge a person with dementia to do something they don’t want to do? It took days of cajoling to get Amy to join us on a picnic to the park. The weather was perfect, her daughter would join us and we would watch the children play. Amy loved children. We

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